Thanks...I was hoping for something like this.
I have been struggling a bit over the past week or so. I feel like I want the wrong things or am making the wrong choices.
I don't know why, but I have just felt like such a failure lately. At work, I have the opportunity to relocate to a larger metro area than the one I am in currently...but I am not sure I want to. First of all, the office location is in the middle of an far-flung suburb and not walkable/bikeable (I like to commute to work by bike on nice days). However, it's in a metro area that is much more glamourous than the one I currently live in. It's the kind of place people brag about living in (which also means its much more expensive). I am very torn because I feel like I am supposed to take the relocation (it's much more high-profile) but at the same time I want to stay in the city I am in because I have so many memories here (got married here, etc.) and because I like it.
However, I know my family would respect me a lot more if I am living in a more glamourous metro area. They think I'm pretty 'small potatoes' for living where I live right now.
I am just not sure what I should do.
Give yourself some time to think it through. Sounds like the decision is all yours to make. Recognize the 'power' of the control you have. Some people have a life where there is no control and that is the scariest thing.
You are the captain of your own ship. Don't worry about the judgments of others. Perhaps go to somebody you look up to as a mentor. That has lived life. They'll probably tell you all these other folks can pound sand.
I was in a situation like you where my college friends in broadcasting were moving out of their starter markets to bigger cities in the USA. But I found myself living in the most beautiful small city in the country Bend, Oregon. I chose the quality of life and additional 4 years there. Moved to Vegas which was not the same. Strange hours prevented me from managing my health.
Lastly if you don't have a mentor. Go to a talk counselor. They can help you take inventory of what is important to you.
You don't sound like a failure at all.
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