The Mental Health Support Thread

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The Mental Health Support Thread
« on: November 01, 2017, 08:46:38 AM »
Hope this is an ok idea. We used to have such a thread on @atu2, but it seemed to have been culled off (rather unfairly)

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #1 on: November 01, 2017, 09:03:50 AM »
Thanks...I was hoping for something like this.

I have been struggling a bit over the past week or so. I feel like I want the wrong things or am making the wrong choices.

I don't know why, but I have just felt like such a failure lately. At work, I have the opportunity to relocate to a larger metro area than the one I am in currently...but I am not sure I want to. First of all, the office location is in the middle of an far-flung suburb and not walkable/bikeable (I like to commute to work by bike on nice days). However, it's in a metro area that is much more glamourous than the one I currently live in. It's the kind of place people brag about living in (which also means its much more expensive). I am very torn because I feel like I am supposed to take the relocation (it's much more high-profile) but at the same time I want to stay in the city I am in because I have so many memories here (got married here, etc.) and because I like it.

However, I know my family would respect me a lot more if I am living in a more glamourous metro area. They think I'm pretty 'small potatoes' for living where I live right now.

I am just not sure what I should do.
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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #2 on: November 01, 2017, 09:38:59 AM »
Aviastar, im a firm subscriber to the notion that you should always do what pleases you. If it pleases others too, then great, if not....well, its your life.
Dont let anyone else dictate how your life should pan out.


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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #3 on: November 01, 2017, 09:41:57 AM »
Hope this is an ok idea. We used to have such a thread on @atu2, but it seemed to have been culled off (rather unfairly)

No problem at all with this thread, Sir....and hopefully it will help people who feel they want to share/people will get something from sharing, talking, reading what others think, offering advice etc....

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #4 on: November 01, 2017, 09:47:14 AM »
Hope this is an ok idea. We used to have such a thread on @atu2, but it seemed to have been culled off (rather unfairly)

No problem at all with this thread, Sir....and hopefully it will help people who feel they want to share/people will get something from sharing, talking, reading what others think, offering advice etc....

Cheers Mun  ;D

I feel many u2 fans have struggles and, maybe, like myself, have limited opportuinity to sound off/ get support. I (as a life long struggler with mental health issues) get a lot of comfort from helping others and knowing im not alone in my battle.

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #5 on: November 01, 2017, 09:50:08 AM »
Hope this is an ok idea. We used to have such a thread on @atu2, but it seemed to have been culled off (rather unfairly)

No problem at all with this thread, Sir....and hopefully it will help people who feel they want to share/people will get something from sharing, talking, reading what others think, offering advice etc....

Cheers Mun  ;D

I feel many u2 fans have struggles and, maybe, like myself, have limited opportuinity to sound off/ get support. I (as a life long struggler with mental health issues) get a lot of comfort from helping others and knowing im not alone in my battle.

Gonna stick the thread for you so it is at top of section.

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #6 on: November 01, 2017, 09:56:33 AM »
Oh, your way to kind. Hopefully, it will prove useful to those who need it :)

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #7 on: November 01, 2017, 10:21:03 AM »
Great idea.  I had seasonable depression/anxiety develop when I was in college.  Kinda made me stumble in an initial career in broadcasting not knowing what was going on.  I had a winter that was terrible 11 years ago.  But ..... that's when I discovered the healing power of exercise.  Great for the mind and body.   

It's still a work in progress.   I've had a life plot twist recently that stings in the short term but is allowing me to pursue what I've always been supposed to do.  My spirits are very high right now.  If anybody here wants to get more specific with questions advice. Feel free to message me.

I have been in hell.   Multiple times.  Some situations of my own creation.  On the verge of a comeback where everything past is prologue.  Feels like a God plan. 


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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #8 on: November 01, 2017, 10:30:44 AM »
Thanks...I was hoping for something like this.

I have been struggling a bit over the past week or so. I feel like I want the wrong things or am making the wrong choices.

I don't know why, but I have just felt like such a failure lately. At work, I have the opportunity to relocate to a larger metro area than the one I am in currently...but I am not sure I want to. First of all, the office location is in the middle of an far-flung suburb and not walkable/bikeable (I like to commute to work by bike on nice days). However, it's in a metro area that is much more glamourous than the one I currently live in. It's the kind of place people brag about living in (which also means its much more expensive). I am very torn because I feel like I am supposed to take the relocation (it's much more high-profile) but at the same time I want to stay in the city I am in because I have so many memories here (got married here, etc.) and because I like it.

However, I know my family would respect me a lot more if I am living in a more glamourous metro area. They think I'm pretty 'small potatoes' for living where I live right now.

I am just not sure what I should do.

Give yourself some time to think it through.  Sounds like the decision is all yours to make.  Recognize the 'power' of the control you have.  Some people have a life where there is no control and that is the scariest thing. 

You are the captain of your own ship.  Don't worry about the judgments of others.  Perhaps go to somebody you look up to as a mentor.  That has lived life.  They'll probably tell you all these other folks can pound sand. 

I was in a situation like you where my college friends in broadcasting were moving out of their starter markets to bigger cities in the USA.  But I found myself living in the most beautiful small city in the country Bend, Oregon.  I chose the quality of life and additional 4 years there.  Moved to Vegas which was not the same.  Strange hours prevented me from managing my health. 

Lastly if you don't have a mentor. Go to a talk counselor.  They can help you take inventory of what is important to you. 

You don't sound like a failure at all. 


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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #9 on: November 01, 2017, 10:43:58 AM »
Thanks...I was hoping for something like this.

I have been struggling a bit over the past week or so. I feel like I want the wrong things or am making the wrong choices.

I don't know why, but I have just felt like such a failure lately. At work, I have the opportunity to relocate to a larger metro area than the one I am in currently...but I am not sure I want to. First of all, the office location is in the middle of an far-flung suburb and not walkable/bikeable (I like to commute to work by bike on nice days). However, it's in a metro area that is much more glamourous than the one I currently live in. It's the kind of place people brag about living in (which also means its much more expensive). I am very torn because I feel like I am supposed to take the relocation (it's much more high-profile) but at the same time I want to stay in the city I am in because I have so many memories here (got married here, etc.) and because I like it.

However, I know my family would respect me a lot more if I am living in a more glamourous metro area. They think I'm pretty 'small potatoes' for living where I live right now.

I am just not sure what I should do.

Give yourself some time to think it through.  Sounds like the decision is all yours to make.  Recognize the 'power' of the control you have.  Some people have a life where there is no control and that is the scariest thing. 

You are the captain of your own ship.  Don't worry about the judgments of others.  Perhaps go to somebody you look up to as a mentor.  That has lived life.  They'll probably tell you all these other folks can pound sand. 

I was in a situation like you where my college friends in broadcasting were moving out of their starter markets to bigger cities in the USA.  But I found myself living in the most beautiful small city in the country Bend, Oregon.  I chose the quality of life and additional 4 years there.  Moved to Vegas which was not the same.  Strange hours prevented me from managing my health. 

Lastly if you don't have a mentor. Go to a talk counselor.  They can help you take inventory of what is important to you. 

You don't sound like a failure at all. 


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I agree, sounds like your doing really good. Keep your chin up

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #10 on: November 01, 2017, 10:45:55 AM »
Yes to be in a spot to control your own destiny is a great measure of success especially this decade.  In fact it's awesome. 


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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #11 on: November 01, 2017, 11:05:07 AM »
Thanks...I was hoping for something like this.

I have been struggling a bit over the past week or so. I feel like I want the wrong things or am making the wrong choices.

I don't know why, but I have just felt like such a failure lately. At work, I have the opportunity to relocate to a larger metro area than the one I am in currently...but I am not sure I want to. First of all, the office location is in the middle of an far-flung suburb and not walkable/bikeable (I like to commute to work by bike on nice days). However, it's in a metro area that is much more glamourous than the one I currently live in. It's the kind of place people brag about living in (which also means its much more expensive). I am very torn because I feel like I am supposed to take the relocation (it's much more high-profile) but at the same time I want to stay in the city I am in because I have so many memories here (got married here, etc.) and because I like it.

However, I know my family would respect me a lot more if I am living in a more glamourous metro area. They think I'm pretty 'small potatoes' for living where I live right now.

I am just not sure what I should do.

The best advice I can give is to do what makes you happy. 

I made the decision a year and a half ago to move from my hometown to a bigger city for a job and it was the best decision that I made...I made the decision for me and I couldn't be happier.  My mom never "approved" of the decision that I made and probably never will.
I feel my luck could change.

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #12 on: November 01, 2017, 11:23:58 AM »
This is a wonderful thread...we ALL need the support of our community sometimes.

"To thine own self be true."

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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #13 on: November 01, 2017, 11:48:24 AM »
I reckon Social Media is a big cause of depression today, particularly in younger folk.  A recent survey in the UK found that about 25% of girls claim they have had depression.  Prince Harry came up with a great line the other day that I resolved to use in conversation. He said that Social Media is like "a mental running machine that you can't get off."


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Re: The Mental Health Support Thread
« Reply #14 on: November 01, 2017, 11:55:31 AM »
I reckon Social Media is a big cause of depression today, particularly in younger folk.  A recent survey in the UK found that about 25% of girls claim they have had depression.  Prince Harry came up with a great line the other day that I resolved to use in conversation. He said that Social Media is like "a mental running machine that you can't get off."

I decided to quit social media in January (except for U2 forum of course).  I found most of it toxic and just a big comparison game and that it wasn't contributing that much to my life - that it contributed to anxiety and was not an incredibly positive place to be. This forum (and at the time atU2 forum) are different because it's very focused on one subject and it's more kinship/fellowship among fans of a band than just a constant barage of what everyone's up to all the time.
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